thanks to this new invention of texting, okay not new, but when it comes to dating, it can make or break a relationship. and texting can be totally great when meeting someone new: anticipating those not-so-quick responses, getting to know this new person, and even helps with making plans for the first date (instead of talking on the phone, of course).

however, time to wake up – not every guy you drunkenly talk to at a bar wants your digits. you might think you guys are totally hitting it off when in reality, he’s trying to find an escape route. ladies, burn these 3 rules in your mind and never forget them:

1. “Here, take my number.” – unless their phone is about to die or is already dead, this is the go-to escape route to shut you up. taking down a number means they don’t want to be in control of your new-found relationship = they can care less if you text or not. this is the most common, yet most misunderstood line.

2. “I’m not a big texter.” – LIE. LIE. LIE. LIE. LIE. what person in their 20s is not a texter? sure there’s the few select people that genuinely hate texting still text. and if you see what phone they have, blackberry, iphone, droid, even that old LG phone with the keyboard – they blatantly text if they need a keyboard. or maybe they’d just rather play snake..

3. “Don’t worry about it, I’ll find you on Facebook.” – oh, okay. because this makes so much sense. did you exchange last names? better yet, do you even remember his first name? does he even have a facebook? yeah billions of people do, but there are also a ton of people who aren’t active users. and even if this idea does come true, do you really want his first impression of you to be blackout drunk in mexico hugging the tequila shooter.

and if you are talking to someone you genuinely like, you should probably keep your cell phone away anyway.